Relationships can be affected by personal judgments and criticisms about the other. Take note of all the thoughts you have about what is wrong with your relationship or with the other person. Reflect on how getting caught in these thoughts can impact your mood, attitude, and relationship. # What are the thoughts you have about what's wrong with your relationship or this person? I think... I feel like... I don't feel like... I want... # How does your mood change when you dwell on these thoughts? I feel better when... I feel worse when... # When you buy into or dwell on these thoughts, what effect does it have on your relationship? It makes me feel... It makes my relationship... # Is dwelling on these thoughts effective for improving your relationship? What can you do differently that is more effective? It's effective in that... It's not effective in that... I could...