Conflicts are bound to arise in any relationship. It can be helpful to create a forgiveness ritual as part of your joint healing process. Let's begin. > Tip: Forgiveness rituals are most effective when you and the other person create them together. # What thoughts, feelings, and memories are you holding on to? I'm holding onto the thought that... I'm holding onto the feeling that... I'm holding on to the memory of... # How is holding onto these things hurting your relationship? It's hurting the relationship because... By holding on, I am... I'm feeling like... # How would you like to build a better relationship based on your values? Based on my value of... Because I value... # What can you do to let go of painful thoughts and feelings? Let the feeling come and go... Practice mindfulness of thoughts... Practice mindfulness of emotions... # What can you do to symbolize starting over? Shake on it... Make a verbal commitment... Write our answers down on paper and share it with each other... # What can you do to reconnect? Hug... Kiss... Have a meal together...